As a part of Ava’s #SocialGraces for the #CitizenExperience, PinupsPresidential is proposing a starting point for citizen opt-in sharing standards to #design better sexual #experience for humankind.
Why? A couple of reasons:
Sex is good for our health. Happy, healthy adults want guilt and worry-free access to sex.
Our sexual lives can harbor guilt and shame. In a neurally-connected world, living with a clear conscience, free from emotional baggage is a security imperative. With a #SacredSexy “study buddy” approach, there’s no need to lie or manipulate to fulfill basic sexual needs.
An opt-in formatting standard introduces the opportunity to educate the citizenry about ever-changing technology that affects us in the most intimate ways.
Seasonal #Colorways programming can introduce appropriate sponsors, products and fun into the experience while keeping us abreast of new information we need to know. Social sharing inspired by Colorways conversations can keep things fresh even in committed relationships.
Emotional intimacy can be cultivated more when the security of standard formatting is available (we either opt-in or opt-out at regular intervals) Definitions of a “Happy Marriage” are fraught with loosely-clarified expectations.
Just as I can have a lab partner at school, so I should be able to have a study buddy for sex. With this approach, you could expect to enter into and gracefully exit an experience with a sexual partner without drama or bad feelings. Running into a former study buddy at the grocery store would have no more drama than running into your lab partner from last semester. In fact, you could anticipate a friendly, “How have you been? Nice to see you!”
Meetup- In person meeting to determine if there is attraction.
Expectations: If there is attraction, expect she will want to touch you. Do not expect sexual contact first meeting.
If you opt-in, begin with:
Week 1: Missionary
Week 2: Woman on Top
Week 3: Doggie
Prepare to have the “option to renew” conversation before you say goodbye, that way week 4 can be a sensual “until we meet again” farewell. An elegant and civilized solution to opting out.
Week 4: Period Week or Standing. Insert period week into the schedule wherever it occurs, then pick up where you left off.
So what is a “relationship?”
At its simplest, it could be #SacredSexy + affinity 1 and affinity 2. Using a building block approach (especially if monogamy is a goal) it would then always be possible to “revert” back to basics if a relationship becomes challenged. If you have a sex partner plus an interest in yoga and culinary, then your sacred day together can be truly fulfilling. You don’t have to “complete me.” These are the activities I do with my boyfriend or wife. We have other kinds of relationships (friendships, project partners) to pursue additional interests. The girlfriend or husband doesn’t feel suspicious about a partner’s time spent elsewhere: go shop for decor with your designer friends while I go off-roading with mine. As a result, the time couples spend together is based on activities of mutual pleasure, not possessiveness, not property. If hanging out socially with friends is one of your affinities, great. If appearing dressed and polished in public as a power couple is your thing, then that’s a specific way of moving in the world. If your “guy” doesn’t get along with your girlfriends, or the woman you love doesn’t roll with your crowd, then a very successful marriage or relationship might be very private. It very much depends on the individuals involved.
SacredSexy sets apart specific time for specific activity, allowing for the experience to be pure, healing, and sensually satisfying. For adult human beings, this should be held sacred, not bundled with a bunch of other stuff.